Unburdened: How ending my search for purpose allowed me to find peace.

Rick Warren, with his best selling book “The Purpose Driven Life” brought the search for purpose into the mainstream. To date millions of people in a desperate attempt to discover what their purpose is or at least make some sense of their lives have read his book and others like it . Many people have been greatly helped as they sincerely sought to discover their purpose by asking great questions about life, meaning, significance and eternity. I think you’ll agree that everyone could benefit from doing this type of soul searching.

Recently though I have become aware of a troubling trend. A trend found within many Christian circles, groups, organizations and in many churches. I have to admit I am guilty of being swept up by this trend too. My concern is that this trend threatens to undermine purposeful living. In effort to stress the need to discover one’s purpose teachers, authors and leaders may have caused purpose to become the new standard by which we judge a person’s value and worth.

There are several issues I have noticed since purpose has become more mainstream. A major factor is how some Christian leaders, including myself until recently, have been teaching about purpose.  Here are my concerns:

  1. When you attempt to gain meaning only from what you DO instead of who you ARE a troubling pattern emerges. First, you begin to base your worth and value as a human being on success, contribution and accomplishment. Second, you begin to judge other people’s worth and value based on their success, contribution and accomplishment. These two ideals oppose a very important basic belief that many people accept. People like the founding fathers (see the Declaration of Independence), Gandhi, Dr. Martin Luther King, Jr and the person they got the idea from – Jesus. They all believed that all people have innate value and worth based on one truth. All men are created equal. Everyone is created in the image of God.
  2.  Purpose has now become institutionalized instead of personal. In other words organizations, churches, etc. are teaching that without them you can’t know your purpose. Or they will tell you that you should seek to discover what your purpose is and they will be glad to help you but then proceed tell you they know what your purpose is. Your purpose is to serve in their organization, give to their organization, or join their organization. Once you begin to do those things you will discover your purpose because those things are your purpose. Yet, even though the individual may feel good about those things because in many cases doing those things are good things to do the individual is no closer to discovering his or her purpose. I might add that the person is no better off because he or she has unknowingly exchanged institutional purpose for personal responsibility.  (That can be good especially when what one’s purpose has been to indulge in rebellion and sin. But that is a fledgling type of faith that all new Christians need and experience as they learn what it means to live in Christ).  Be cautious: “I will follow the institution” may replace “I will seek and follow Christ.”

    Riding on the coattails of point 2 is the next point:

  3. Purpose is in danger of becoming the new legalism. It is the new standard for measuring a person’s faith, performance, devotion, relationship to God and righteousness. Much like the Pharisee’s of Jesus day who used the law to manipulate the masses and stay in control of the Jewish religious system some Christian Leaders, Churches and organizations have with good intentions unintentionally “institutionalized” purpose.

Don’t get me wrong I do believe that a person who is connected to a healthy body of believers will be motivated to discover his purpose and to live purposefully. But purpose has almost become a measurement used to discover who is greater, better, more devoted, more obedient, more sacrificial, etc. Worse, some Church leaders use a person’s deep longing to have meaning to manipulate, control and guilt them into action. Even worse (and this is why it is the new legalism) finding your purpose is being promoted with such veracity in some circles that it becomes the new law that needs to be observed in order to attain, sustain or improve a person’s standing with God. In other words, purpose has become a works based righteousness instead of something that flows out of an abiding, faith in, relationship with Jesus.

So, we’ve come full circle. Is one’s worth and value found by “doing” or “being”? Surely since “you are” you have inherent worth and value. Jesus died for you before you did anything – good or bad. Since, that is true your inherent value and worth cannot be increased by what you do including; perfectly living in God’s perfect will. Now, don’t misinterpret what I am saying because “doing” will erupt out of “being”. (I will share in an upcoming post how I believe we can know our value and worth. Surprisingly, it is by recognizing the inherent value and worth in others. Hint: It’s found in The Greatest Commandment.)

However, that is not how “Purpose” is being taught, therein lies the danger of it becoming new version of works-based righteousness. When purpose is taught as “You have to find and live in your purpose or you won’t be acceptable or pleasing to God” it becomes a works based righteousness. Can you see the danger in that line of reasoning?

In the next post I intend to explore “purpose” more. I intend to address our tendency to stress over and worry whether or not we are in “God’s perfect will for our lives”. As I now see it I find it hard to believe that many of the people whose lives are recorded in the Scripture continuously fretted over “discovering” their purpose or spent near as much time as we modern people do worrying about it.




Every person will experience humiliation at some point in his life. More than likely multiple times in a lifetime and to one degree or another experience some form of humiliation on a daily basis.

As I reflected on a recent humiliating event that occurred in my life I eventually began to ask these questions.

Can a humble person experience humiliation? 

Or more appropriately, how does a humble person experience humiliation? “How” as in how does a humble person receive and respond to an event that causes great humiliation. Specifically, events that one is not in control of, does not deserve and is mostly brought on by other people?

Can humiliation have long term “control” over a humble person?
What is the difference between the reactions of a prideful vs. humble person to humiliation?
The first conclusion I came to is of course a humble person can experience humiliation. Duh.

The prime example – Jesus. There are many Scripture references that describe Jesus’ humility. Philippians 2 comes to mind.

Make your own attitude that of Christ Jesus, who, existing in the
form of God, did not consider equality with God as something to be used for
His own advantage. Instead He emptied Himself by assuming the form
of a slave, taking on the likeness of men. And when He had come as a man in
His external form, He humbled Himself by becoming obedient to the
point of death —even to death on a cross.

 So Jesus who loved, served, cared for, healed, helped, and who is God experienced an unimaginable and undeserving humiliation. Talk about experiencing a humiliation that you don’t deserve! It was unfair and unjust.  Even if you don’t believe that Jesus is the Son of God you still have to admit his crucifixion was unjust. He didn’t deserve it. He hadn’t done anything that demanded this type of response. He was innocent!

No doubt, you can reflect back on a humiliation that occurred in your life just as I can and say to some degree, “I didn’t deserve that!” But it happened.

So what do you do now? How do you respond? How do you move past it?

As I reflected over a great, unjust humiliation that occurred in my life I realized that it had allowed much pride to take root. Pride was keeping that event and all the emotions, etc. on life support. Pride was fueling my anger, my distrust and keeping me from moving past it.

My pride, not the event, was causing me to shut myself off from my future and from vital relationships.

Astonishingly, pride was actually empowering that past event. It was my pride that was greatly limiting my outlook and diminishing my hope for a better future. I couldn’t see past the humiliation. I couldn’t see how I would ever be useful again. And I blamed this all on “them” but in reality it was pride that had somehow craftily crept into my life.

It was like that humiliating event was the snake bite that allowed the poison of pride to be injected into my life. Or maybe it was that event that activated the pride that was already there.???

I can’t really tell you when pride first showed up. Was it there before the event? Most likely to some degree or another. Was it a result of the event or revealed by the event? All I can tell you is that pride is a nasty sin that can easily masquerade itself.

Pride blames, excuses, accuses, hates, dulls, demeans, eludes, hides, and causes one to unjustly question his self worth and value. Pride builds up but at the same time destroys. Satan wants your fall to be hard so that you will never attempt to stand again. So that you will give up. So that you will go through life blaming others for what you could have been but never reach your potential because you are afraid to take risk. You stop being willing to put yourself out there for fear of experiencing another humiliation. Or you put yourself out there in the wrong kind of ways? Regardless, pride builds up but pride destroys.

Pride builds one up like a towering skyscraper. But what pride doesn’t
show is that skyscraper is built with rusty, corroded rivets.
It’s beautiful, but it will eventually crumble under its own weight. 

How do you know if your prideful? Well, that humiliating experience still controls you. It is controlling your response to the humiliation. Pride is controlling how you see yourself, view today and view your future. All based on a past event. You just can’t get over it. That’s pride. That experience still makes you sick every time you think about it. That’s pride. You are still fighting against feeling humiliated by that humiliation. That’s pride. They’re, He, She, it is not going to get the best of me! That’s pride.

The only antidote to the poison of pride – confession and repentance. But what pride says is, “Hey wait, this happened to you. What do you have to repent of? You didn’t do anything wrong. They need to confess and repent not you.” But repentance is the only path back to humility and freedom from the power that humiliation has over you. And the reason it still has power over you – pride. It is in humility where you will find peace of mind and soul. It is in humility that you will able to properly evaluate your experience and actually gain valuable lessons for your future.

Maybe, the most important lesson is to guard yourself against pride like it is a lion trying to steal your baby.

Often people attempt to address the humiliation with accomplishment. “I’ll show you!” That’s pride. That’s also living an enemy centered life. If getting back or getting even is your is your motivation. That’s pride.

Someone has wisely stated, “Humility is a safeguard against humiliation”. I believe he was on to something. I don’t think this implies that a humble person will never experience humiliation. Remember Jesus? But I do think the effects of humiliation on a humble person are far less detrimental than to a prideful person. For me I have realized that I was still living with and reliving my humiliation. I’ll leave you with that. But now I have some confessing and repenting to do.



I’ll be there for you and you’ll be there for me too…. ba ba da da ba ba ba bwang…. 

I have been pondering how one can assuredly know the will of God. It’s something I have been meditating on for a while because how we are told to go about discovering it is often misleading and falls short of what the will of God is intended to bring about in our lives. (not doing stuff, but being relationship with Him)

I personally have looked at the will of God as being a theological/practical matter that has to do with mine and God’s happiness. In other words, I want to know the will of God so that I can live to please him to make myself more acceptable to him acting as though I am not already completely accepted by Him through Christ. However, this is also about control. If I know God’s will I can make certain decisions to get me to it and in it or if I am honest to avoid it if I don’t like where He is taking me. 

In the last 20 years the emphasis on “knowing and do the will of God” has been taught, preached, and written about extensively. There are numerous seminars, workshops and an endless supply of Bible studies available to help people by giving them a systematized method of discovering God’s will and the inspiration or kick in the pants to actually do it if or when they discover it.

Many believe that God’s will is an unsolvable mystery, a Rubik’s Cube only solvable if you know and can remember the complex algorithms that make is solvable. On top of that the goal post are always shifting out of our range. Unfortunately, many believers just throw up their hands in frustration and disappointment. But it doesn’t have to be this way!!

While meditating on this topic I recalled in the Scripture that Jesus told the disciples essentially, “I am telling you these things because you are my friends”.

 I do not call you slaves anymore, because a slave doesn’t know
what his master is doing. I have called you friends, because I have made known to you everything I have heard from My Father. John 15:15 HCSB

Could this verse secretly be the answer to the anxiety so many believers feel as they pursue and anxiously wonder if they are in God’s will? Could this verse lessen the need for seminars, systems and studies that many Christians to turn in an effort to at least show God they are serious about knowing His will? Maybe just maybe knowing God’s will doesn’t have to be as complicated as we have made it. Maybe you don’t need a new 10 step system or new 10 step prayer journal. Could it be as simple as truly drawing close to Jesus as a friend?

Think about what Jesus is doing, how he is changing the dynamic between he and the disciples who will no longer just be considered as followers but as friends whom he disclose everything to. The disciples must have been delighted! We all know that true camaraderie and friendship is “earned” by trust and shared experiences as you do life together. We have all had a friend or a group of friends that we could share anything with. We could share our deepest sorrows and greatest joys and those friends would mourn and rejoice with us. There is nothing like having a friend like that!

Yes, theologians, Jesus is my Lord, but relating to Jesus as a friend doesn’t take away His authority. Relating to Jesus as a friend and him relating to me as such personalizes His word and authority. Consider this. Are we more likely to respond to his will as a Lord/slave relationship or a friend/friend relationship where he speaks from the depth of his heart to your heart?

It is in relationship with Jesus that you will be able to have made known to you everything he has heard from the Father. It will not be some system, program or teaching series.

In other words a relationship with Jesus will create the atmosphere for him to speak to you and unveil himself to you just as any close friend does.

Now, evaluate your current efforts to know and do the will of God and your current relationship to Jesus as you reflect on these questions.

As you seek God’s will do you view His will as a marching order given by an impersonal, distant King which you must do OR ELSE? A King who just needs you for a project and if you fail or refuse he’s done with you?


Do you view God’s will as favor asked of you by a trusted, endearing friend who has always been there for you, who has done great things for you – someone you would lay down your life for in an instant, someone you would stop whatever it is you are in the middle of to help?

The first approach is religion. What can or should I do to earn more favor and make myself acceptable to God. (Lord/slave)

The second approach is relationalI am completely accepted by God because of Jesus. He will lovingly, willingly and graciously share all things with me at the proper time. 

Recently, I have had the pleasure of meeting many great people. Many of whom have become trusted friends. People that I would do anything for and respond if they needed help. Likewise, they would do the same for me. Some of these friends are in very influential positions. They will and have helped me by connecting me to other people who can help me in my current job search.

But, I have another friend who is more influential and powerful then all of these combined. His name is Jesus.

John 15:15 shows that knowing God’s will is not complex at all. So take the pressure off yourself. You may not even have to read another book or do another study… ever.

Just…be friends with Jesus. He will do for you what he did for the disciples in John 15:15. No doubt this transition in their relationship was such a powerful experience that it impacted the rest of their lives.

You’re worth it.

In John Maxwell’s latest book, Intentional Living, he makes an eye opening observation that hit me at the core of who I am. He stated, “If you only place a small value upon yourself, rest assured that the rest of the world will not raise the price.”

Depending on your profession, your personality and the way you define success you have probably questioned your worth. This then causes you to question your value as a person, your purpose and your contribution to the world. You then create a self-limiting mental and emotional mine field which leads to constantly having a mental chess match with yourself about your value often leaving you drowning in negativity which inevitably puts you in an “I can’t” state of being. This state of being isn’t a healthy place to be since it limits everything you do or could do. Worse it defines you, tells you what you should be and incapacitates you in your process of “becoming.”

Maxwell goes on to state, “And as a result of your own low self-esteem and poor sense of worth, you will fail to make a positive difference in the lives of others because you’ll think you have little to offer.”

Personally, this hits me right between the eyes. If I don’t love and care for myself I will be unable to love and care for others. I will be much less effective at work, at home and at life. I have been a ministry professional now for 14 years. Like all service oriented professions burnout is a real issue because these professions require one to constantly pour himself out and it is rare for them to be poured back into. Most service oriented professionals have chosen their profession because they have a self-sacrificing spirit which adds to the potential for burn-out. So, if you’re like me, it means you don’t know how to take a break to nurture your own soul.

Regardless of your profession you may be dealing with feelings of worthlessness. You may be attempting to navigate the mine field of negativity and don’t know where to put your foot down next.

Here is what I am learning to implement in my own life. These few steps encourage a mental environment that raises view of self, self-worth and value. I hope what I have learned from my journey will help you too.

Battle negative emotions with gratitude. Gratitude actually rewires your brain to think positively. Whatever good, positive experience you have to think on meditate on those things. Start a “Gratitude Journal”. Write down 10 to 20 positive experiences that brought true joy, rest and peace to your heart. Meditate on them for 5 minutes in the morning and evening. It won’t take long but it will make a world of difference.

Get yourself in good company…now! I saw a tweet the other day that stated, “Never develop ideas with people who don’t care.” There is a great deal of wisdom you can apply to your life from that. Marginalization can be a major cause of feelings of worthlessness. In other words when you are hanging around negative people they often cause you to feel worthless to make themselves feel better. Get around positive, healthy people and learn from them.  A positive mindset is contagious.

Love yourself. Self-hatred and self-loathing exacerbates and exaggerates the feelings of worthlessness. What should you do? Reward yourself in a healthy way. Take a break. Eat healthy. Exercise. Get some sleep. Spend time with positive people. All these things tell your mind, “I am worth it.” They naturally combat self-hatred. But if you really want to feel good get involved in something where you can add value to and help others.

Get real help. Friends and family can be a great help and encouragement, but in some cases they are the cause of your value struggle. If you find yourself in this position and find that you cannot break the cycle seek help from a counseling professional. A behavior therapist is equipped to help you address these patterns of thinking.

Faith. This may not be for you, but the nature of the Gospel of Jesus Christ is this. God loves you. It is the answer to the question of worthlessness and value. I am not worthy of Jesus’s death on the cross, but to God I am worth dying for and worth saving. You are loved by God the evidence of his mercy, grace and provision is all around you. You’ll see it more and more by practicing step one. With this in mind get yourself and your family in a good, positive, uplifting church environment and connect with a good, healthy faith community. (They do exist!) The Law of Significance states, “one is too small a number to achieve greatness.” You will never reach your God designed potential or fulfill your purpose in life by journeying alone.


Authority and the Heart of Submission

In the first post on this topic, Authority and the test of submission, I shared the story of a friend who recalled to me one of many encounters his pastor has had with disgruntled church members. After describing the situation he partly asked and partly stated,

“I don’t get it. Why are people so unwilling to submit to and respect
the authority of a godly pastor?
Why do people say things to their pastor that
they would never say to any other person in authority over them?”

Simple, in every other sphere of life people are “required” to submit to the authorities over them. In most cases people submit because a boss, the government, a parent, a teacher, etc. has leverage over them. A boss can fire an employee who refuses to do his job or curses him out.  So, in most of the areas of life people, even believers sometimes, reluctantly submit to authorities.

However, the heart of all true, God-honoring, Spirit produced submission is voluntary.

In most cases because submission is voluntary in the body of Christ, the church is the one place where the heart can be exposed as to whether or not a person has a true heart of submission and this demonstrates whether or not one understands what it means to honor and respect those in authority.

So, Why do people say things to their pastor that they would never say to any other person in authority over them?

1. One conclusion is that people already feel powerless over their lives.

The Church then becomes the one place where people can flex their muscles so to speak speaking to those in authority over them without fearing reprisal. It is the one place where they can assume control of, have influence over, speak their minds often without impunity, expressing all their underlying anger with the other authorities in the life. Unfortunately and often the Pastor becomes their preferred target since he is, according to God’s Word, the leader of the church, since he in their minds should just take it because that what he’s there for.

 There are the few exceptions where church leaders abuse their authority and
coerce and manipulate people into submission, however those are truly few and far between. Most emotionally healthy people can identify that culture very quickly.

2. Another possibility is the feeling of entitlement that predominates the church. Since, one gives money to the church, he is entitled to address anything he doesn’t like directly with the pastor in whatever spirit he so desires. 

When you think about it there are really few entities that exist that gives people such direct access to those in authority over them. Often, angry, disgruntled people use their money to control the pastor and justify sinful, venomous accusations. It’s the old, “I’ll take my money and go somewhere else if you don’t respond the way I want you to” scenario. (“my” is bold because a person who talks like that demonstrates he is not submitted to the Lord, because someone who is doesn’t see the tithe as “mine” but “HIS”.) So, the color of the carpet, salaries, the nursery, the music, etc. all become reasons for people to challenge the authorities over them and make a fuss about…well just about everything.

Hopefully, you see how quickly a Pastor can become overwhelmed and with all the possible scenarios and people he is bound to make a mistake, let someone down, respond in anger, or just grow tired of the constant inquisition. No man is able to endure that
without failing at some point. 

3. The amount of churches to choose from allows for church hopping and church

Options embolden people. “I can say what I want when I want, act however I want then go down the street if I don’t get the right response.” And, most likely the behavior will be repeated at the next church because no one can hold or has the right to hold them accountable. If the leaders try they will leave the church moving on to the next one on the list.

No wonder a culture of discord and dissension permeates churches.
There is no incentive and less willingness to work things out. 

4. It is because many do not have a heart of true, God-honoring, Spirit produced

The way they would treat a godly pastor who cares for them, serves them and shepherds them exposes the spiritual reality that they are not truly submitted to Christ as their Lord and Savior. Again, this is true even when the pastor lets you down or is not performing in a manner that you agree with or has made a decision that you don’t understand.

Some people are submitted to tradition, their preferences, peers, denominations, clics, etc. but are not submitted to Christ. The evidence is their unwillingness to voluntary submit to those God has placed in authority over them trusting God to hold him accountable.

Every good pastor will voluntarily submit to some form of peer accountability.

Again, the principle emerges. Submit unto ________________ as unto the Lord.

Let me close this series with a few suggestions that I believe demonstrates a heart of submission.

  1. The next time you see a church member getting testy with the Pastor step in, intervene, and help the person express his concerns in a way that honors the Lord. Refuse to allow your pastor to be publicly disparaged.
  2. The next time a decision is made that you don’t fully understand or agree with trust that the Pastor knows things you don’t know and can’t fully explain why the decision was made or why the action was taken.
  3. Don’t hate just because something is changed. Change is necessary and good.
  4. The next time you hear gossip, slander, ridicule or a person mocking the pastor stand up for him. No gossip, slander or ridicule is to be tolerated in the body because it fuels discord and distrust. It gives Satan a foothold. Remember, Satan will always attempt to remove the authorities over you especially your pastor. He will always strike the shepherd to scatter the sheep and unfortunately it is the sheep whom Satan uses to strike the shepherd.
  5. If you assume that your pastor is himself not submitted to Christ it is not your personal right or role to put him in his place. Pray for him, offer him help, and provide resources he may need if it does come out he has an issue. Even in cases where there is failure on his part he should be met with grace. Of course, if his failure is a crime he should be reported. If it is something else it doesn’t mean he is no longer in authority over you. (see previous post) He is to be submitted to because God has placed him there. God will deal with him, God will remove him, God will hold him accountable. (Use common sense and discernment too to know how to respond!)
  6. Finally, if you cannot in good conscious submit to his leadership, after it is proven that the pastor has failed and refuses to repent then quietly leave the church but before you make a final decision graciously, lovingly, humbly speak with the pastor or another leader. Let him know why you are thinking of leaving, but be open to changing your mind because there may be something going on that you are not aware of. Again, trusting God even when you are unsure that you can follow your pastor is the heart of submission.



Authority and the blessedness of submission

Now before I share the next part of the principle of authority and submission there is something I have to acknowledge. I must acknowledge my own tendency to reject authority. I feel rebelliousness course through my veins like white blood cells attempting to fight off a virus or like the Dark Side of the Force channeling through a Sith Lord.

Authority is a threat to my personal autonomy and individuality – so I think, therefore there is the tendency to resist and reject it. The nature of this is subtle and most of the time it is unintentional, but at other times it is acted out with stubborn, defiant intent.

I think back to when I was a child. I remember being alone – a lot. I remember not really answering to anyone. This at a time when learning about authority and submission were essential to my relational development. My parents weren’t bad, they just weren’t present which was typical for many GenX’ers. I wasn’t necessarily a straight up rebellious child, however I wouldn’t describe myself as submissive either. The more appropriate word would be compliant. There is an ocean of difference between the two. Submission and compliance may look the same on the surface but the motives behind these responses are categorically juxtaposed.

Compliance is submitting to an authority against your will until you can either remove that authority, remove yourself from that authority, justify your actions to defy that authority, or defame that authority so that in your mind the authority is no longer worthy of your compliance.

The motive of compliance is selfishness.

“What can I get out of this?”
“What’s in it for me?”

Maybe it is acceptance, love, or some other emotional reward or relational need being met in an unhealthy way. Maybe it is a promotion at work. (Just think of the people who comply until they become the boss and then become intolerable.) Compliance is how many people have learned to respond to authority because many have not had enough positive, healthy, trusting relationships with authority.

Submission, on the other hand, is voluntary and is based on the virtues of love, honor and respect. It is unselfish, however there are wonderful personal benefits. But submission absolutely goes against every grain of our rebellious nature, especially when we feel the authority doesn’t deserve our honor or respect. Remember Paul’s command to the Roman Christians to submit to the Roman leaders mentioned in part 1? Romans 13 He didn’t tell them to conform or compromise but to honor and respect them whether or not Christians felt the Roman leaders deserved it.

It seems that submission is not our natural response to authority. Submission is a learned response and our introduction to the principle of authority  and submission begins in the home, with our parents or at least it should and according to my own experience if it is not learned at home you will have a lifetime of hurt until you finally learn how to relate to authority. I would even go so far as to posit that submission is part of God’s design and He has our good in mind. Now, take a moment think about the broad implications of this principle.

Did a light bulb come on? Let me help.

In order to understand God’s wisdom in this you have to entreat yourself to the truth found in one of the 10 Commandments. In the sixth commandment submission is stated as a basic life principle that brings life and protection.

 Honor your father and your mother so that you may
have a long life in the land that the Lord your God is giving you.
(Exodus 20:12, HCSB)

Let me make a few observations.

  1. You can’t honor without submission.
  2. Honor earthly authority you honor God’s authority and channel God’s blessings your direction.
  3. Through submission you get the most out of your relationships.
  4. Submission isn’t conditional.
  5. Submission prepares a person for a lifetime of living under whatever authority he finds himself.

How many people do you know who have a hard time submitting to and relating with authority? How many of those people move from job to job? How many of those have difficulty with the law? How many of those people have difficulty in their marriage or have had multiple marriages? How many of those are fired over and over again? How many smart off to teachers, parents, police, pastors and employers? How many of them are now raising children of their own? Scary isn’t it!

You see learning to submit to/honor authority is a vitally important characteristic that must be learned. The principle is inherent to life in God’s design. So, you will either learn the easy way or the hard way.

 Consequently, whoever rebels against the authority is rebelling
against what God has instituted, and those who
do so will bring judgment on themselves. (Romans 13:2, HCSB)

This is true for every area of our lives.

On a personal note, I can think of many times in my life when I rejected authority, good positive, healthy authority, which caused me to miss some amazing opportunities. I am also guilty of complying for selfish reasons then removing myself from under an authority of which God had established and because of that I missed God’s blessings and protection that would have come from that authority. Doh!

Can you think of times when you have done that?

Now the reality is not all who are in positions of authority are good. Let me stress that I am not talking about being a doormat. But as much as possible you should strive to follow the principle to respect and honor the authority. Trust me, I have counseled enough students in my time to know that some of them have terrible parents. You may have a terrible boss or an unloving husband. How can you submit to a disreputable person?

Submit unto ______________ as to the Lord.
Until God removes you, removes him, he repents, circumstances change
or your conscious lets you move on, submit.

This principle grants peace to your conscience, which is a blessing in and of itself when dealing with a difficult person.

Therefore, it is necessary to submit to the authorities,
not only because of possible punishment but also as a matter of conscience.
(Romans 13:5, HCSB)

In other words do not needlessly dishonor or disrepute those in authority. By taking this approach your conscience will remain clear. God can deal with those in authority so much more completely than you can and your submission will heap coals on their heads, it puts them under conviction.

The imminent benefit: living by this principle allows you to have a healthy relationship with the authorities over you which can open all kinds of doors for you for the rest of your life. It can even make you a better leader when its your time to be in charge.

You may be under a terrible boss now but honoring him or her may catch the attention of the person you really want to work for. Personally, I have had a few terrible supervisors in my time and this principle brought favor to me. I have witnessed a wife submit to an unloving husband giving him the honor and respect he didn’t deserve which radically changed him into a man who was loving and respectable. The movie War Room acknowledges this principle when one of the characters humorously stated, “Submission means that the wife ducks so God can hit her husband.” It’s funny but that is how God has designed it to work. We trust God as we submit to those in authority over us and we trust that God will judge, discipline, remove, or bring to repentance those authorities who mistreat and misuse us.

My wonderful, amazing wife has used this unfair tactic many times over our 22 years of marriage. It’s why we are still married, why I love her and why I am a much better husband, father, pastor, etc.

Have you had to learn this principle the hard way? You can change, but it will take intentional effort and …… repentance. The tendency to reject authority is part of the sin nature. I required a powerful, personal revelation of Christ through the Good News. It was only then that I voluntarily submitted to God. This voluntary submission was partly due to a revelation of his “wrath against sin” but primarily His love, grace and mercy. Those attributes are why I can now honor and respect the One I once hated and despised. My repentance opened up a whole world to me that was not accessible before. Once I humbled myself before THE AUTHORITY, began to learn His commands I learned the value of honoring other authorities and although I haven’t been perfect, missed my share of opportunities I can tell you that I have also experienced many awesome opportunities that I would never have had if I had not put this part of my life in order.

Authority and the test of submission

Recently, I was having lunch with a friend whose ministry can best be described as a “pastor advocate”. He was sharing how the church he is a part of and has been a part of for years had lost its way as so many monument churches do. Over the years it had become cold, unloving, unwelcoming and completely disengaged from the community around it. When its tenured pastor of 30 years left a new pastor was called. Of course, with a new pastor comes new passion, vision and …challenges.

The new pastor began to set forth a vision that challenged the cold, dead religiosity of this stagnant body but in doing so he had to endure some ugly battles. After several years in this transitional ministry, which nearly burned he and his family out, he resigned. Once again a new pastor was called. There were all kinds expectations for this new pastor. Some hoped for a return to tradition, but some who had tasted hope, life and transformation desired to become a vibrant church that would become a light in its community, used to redeem people with the gospel, heal the scars of the past, and help people live with a new found purpose and meaning that is inherent in a relationship to the Father.

Not surprisingly, the new pastor experienced as much or more adversity as the previous one. In many ways it was “their” last stand against loosing “their” church.

As I listened to this pastor advocate recall what his pastors had endured he shared one event that highlighted the topic of this post. He stated how after one Sunday morning one of the disgruntled members hastily approached the pastor in the parking lot began arguing with him, spewing ugly profanities and nasty accusations then raised his fists readying himself to pummel the pastor.

(Unbelievably, this happens more often than you would think. Someone very close to me had a man approach him and began shoving him in front of the church over a point in his sermon and I have experienced fingers in my face, in my chest accompanied by what I could only label as venomous speech. I don’t know of a single pastor that hasn’t experienced being publicly called out and falsely accused at some point in his ministry.)

Thankfully, in this case someone intervened. Sadly, however from that moment on as a precaution the pastor had to have a security person escort he and his family to and from their vehicles at every church gathering.

As this pastor advocate finished up his story he partly asked and partly stated,

“I don’t get it. Why are people so unwilling to submit to and respect
the authority of the pastor? Why do people say things to their pastor that
they would never say to any other person in authority over them?”

With that I chimed in, having experienced similar things in churches before I have come to my own  conclusions. Now, I do not believe or pretend that I understand this entirely however, I do believe I can speak with authority and clarity on the matter.

It has everything to do with an individuals understanding of authority. Especially, biblical authority or the principle of submitting to authority. Undeniably, this principle is pervasive throughout Scripture, specifically the principle of “submitting unto _________ as unto the Lord”.

Think about it. Jesus praised those who understood the principle of authority and submission. Remember, the story of the faith of the centurion? How about Jesus himself, who never acted on his own but acted according to what he saw the Father doing? The principle of authority is found in the first chapter of Genesis and in the last chapter of Revelation. However, it was and is man’s prerogative to declare his independence from the Creator and any authority over him, which by the way seems to always result in catastrophe.

The Apostle Paul challenged the Roman Christians living in the epicenter of the Roman Empire to submit to those in authority. Paul insisted that they give the Roman authorities the honor and respect they deserve or don’t deserve “for there is no authority except from God, and those that exist are instituted by God.” Can you see the principle emerging? Submit unto __________ as unto the Lord. He even goes on to command that even though the Romans are godless, heathenish, pagans; Christians did not have permission to needlessly dishonor or disrepute them.

Now here’s a shocker. Paul’s conclusion. Those who needlessly refuse to submit to earthly authorities whether its the government, work, church or the home are rejecting God’s authority. A person who consistently, persistently, intentionally, and needlessly rejects the authority that God has instituted rejects God. A person may claim submission to God, but what does his voluntary submission to those God has put in authority over him tell us about his true nature?

Keep this next thought in your heart and mind because I will explore this further in a follow up post.

If God expects you to submit to godless authorities whom he has placed
over you how much more so does He expect you to submit
to loving, godly, albeit imperfect authorities he has placed in his church
over your soul care? (Hebrews 13:17)

What’s at stake? Well in regards to the government it is the ability to “lead a tranquil and quite life in all godliness and dignity”.  Theologically, the degree one submits to authority determines the degree one experiences the protection, benefits and blessings from God and that authority. Most genuine blessings are a result of the degree one submits to authority, but it is not only spiritual blessings that are at stake. There are real world, material, life implications for us all.

I will introduce you to that principle in part two of this series.